Conscious Loving
Authentic love develops from a deeper understanding of our self. Our conscious awareness is expanding and evolving swiftly through our own personal journeys. Never before in the history of Western society have we asked so much of each other, on all levels:
- Physical
- Mental
- Emotional
- Spiritual
Our instinctual self calls us to connect and celebrate our intimate relationship, to let go of outdated, conditioned inhibitions and to experience each other with profundity, conscious awareness and honesty. The time has come for us to communicate on a level of existence that raises us high above the lower mental planes. We are in an age and a time that challenges us personally and as couples to look deeply into our selves. We have to wake up and realize that our relationship problems arise from our own personal unresolved emotional issues. Unresolved emotions are so harmful to the body mind system, they become a barrier to our self-understanding, personal development, conscious awareness and our spiritual evolution. These stored negative emotions we unwittingly carry around in the very cells of our body mind system and they are contributing factors to relationship breakdowns.
- Anger
- Fear
- Sadness
- Hurt
- Guilt
Love relationships challenge us to face our emotional issues
The drama’s we play out within our relationship are shadow types of behaviour. Carl Jung calls these archetypes, which are repeated patterns, thoughts and actions that remain unconscious until we recognize them. When negative thought, feelings and behaviours surface we need to be awake and aware. Most of us control our feelings on autopilot, so when triggered we react without thinking. Unresolved emotional issues get stored in the very cells of our body mind system, and we pay the price for being the storekeeper. Relationships can become toxic as a result of unhealthy shadow archetypal patterns taking over.
Understand Loves First Bloom
We have all experienced the sparks of falling in love and the enormous amount of positive energy that comes with it. We feel this energy on all levels; it lights our hearts, feeds our minds and takes us up and into a magical blissful feeling, its beautiful, we are beautiful, the world is beautiful and we want it to last forever. We are kept afloat on a wave of passionate energy induced by happy chemicals, which creates the effect of feeling “high” and that is exactly what we are, we are high on endorphins. When we fall in love our brain produces extra happy chemicals, it the love drug that keeps the first blush of love alive and the world stands still. Within this amazing high energy we fulfill each others every need, desire and every want. We gaze into each others eyes and feel we have met our perfect soul partner. Unfortunately this high energy is exhaustible and cannot be maintained indefinitely. When the chemicals slow down, the sparks start to die down we start to come down! The beautiful pedestal our perfect lover stands on begins to wobble. This is a critical point in a relationship because it can develop in several different ways.
- You become stuck in a reoccurring cycles of self-sabotaging emotional co-dependent behaviour.
- You love each other and want to work through the problems, but not sure how to.
- You believe that your relationship was mere infatuation and you break up. Doing this simply means that you will continue to experience the same old stuff with different people.
- You may stay in the relationship as an unconscious effort to keep your own identity.
- You go on to forge a long-lasting and healthy relationship, which is the result of ongoing personal development
By taking responsibility for your own part in the relationship and working towards healing your own emotional issues, you can free your self from the chains of the past and step onto the high road to a successful relationship.
Cause and Effect – Woundology
Most love relationships are bonded and established on the foundation of emotional hurt, or wounds. Caroline Myss calls this our woundology. During childhood we model behaviour from the people close to us. Unfortunately, many love relationships are established on the foundations of outdated ingrained patterns from our childhood conditioning, our personal experiences of how we think, feel and model what we believe ‘love’ should be. Our parent’s relationship is our first experience of how male and female interacts. If you were born to emotionally stable parents that maintained a balanced loving relationship the odds are that you have modeled their positive behaviour, beliefs and values about love.
If your childhood experiences of the male female interaction left you emotionally inhibited and unable to give or receive love, your emotional wounds will be stored in your body from a collection of negative events, situations and experiences around love and relationships. Emotional wounds become a barrier that stops the beautiful life flow energy from guiding you to explore your creative potential within yourself and an intimate relationship. Can you accept that your life experiences are always teaching you something, if so nothing that happens to you can be wrong, just valuable learning’s?
The good thing is no one has to be locked into inhibitions that come from emotional wounds. By making a conscious choice to detach and see the big picture, of what is going on in your relationship, rather than being bogged down in the details, you will discover a deeper understanding of yourself through your partner. Even the painful and uncomfortable experiences hold pearls of wisdom. Remember, it is our unconscious drive for wholeness that urges us to heal the emotional damage from the past. When you choose to step onto the path of personal development you will learn to recognize your own projections, your own shadow patterns that have sabotaged you and your relationships. Is it time to let go of the emotional baggage, is it time to create the loving lasting relationship you really would like and deserve?
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References:
Caroline Myss (1998) Why People Don’t Heal, Three Rivers Press, Crown Publishing Group, N.Y.
Jung, C.G. (1964). Man and His Symbols, New York; Doubleday and Company, Inc.
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